WHO WE ARE
Welcome to U Matter Dad; a growing resource for men’s mental health services that offer support to Dad’s who have lost a baby through miscarriage or stillbirth.
We have created a 12-step program to regain your purpose in life, feel whole again, and rebuild your relationships with those closest to you after such a heartbreaking experience, while striving to strengthen your emotional foundation moving forward.
Along with this particular type of hardship, U Matter Dad offers other forms of mental health services for men, including individual and couple therapy, men’s counselling, support for dads, as well as family and bereavement services.
From my personal journey of miscarrying my precious son at 20 weeks and the overwhelming challenges of suffering, grief and guilt that ensued – I realised from this experience the lack of care, comfort and support available for fathers. Reality is they are suffering the death of a child also, however because they haven’t carried the baby and felt the growth from inside their feelings are put behind that of the expectant mother.
There are few greater challenges for an expectant father than to deal with his partner’s miscarriage. While their partner will experience huge physical and emotional challenges in dealing with miscarriage, fathers also feel the loss associated with a miscarried pregnancy and feel helpless to offer support and advice. Often they suppress their feelings and emotions in order to support their partners and keep the family front functioning, despite the crippling grief they are experiencing.
Drawing on my years of experience as a therapist and background in childhood development and parenting, I wanted to create a safe space where fathers feel supported through their individual process. I am passionate about opening the lines of communication around this topic for my clients. To help them through the common thought processes, revolve issues around failing, working together setting realistic goals rather than focusing on their grief which creates a disconnection from their relationship. I encourage my clients to be the facilitator of the process, I am there as support and present key areas that address loss – I am a great believer that as individuals we have a remarkable capacity for self-healing and personal growth, and my philosophy is one that reflects this belief.